Two Weddings and a Sorrowful Wife

Key Findings:

This essay discusses the complex and troubling situation faced by European Jews in the contemporary era. It highlights various aspects of their experiences, including the rise of antisemitism, the challenges to Jewish observance, and the feelings of fear and isolation. It also explores the choice many European Jews are increasingly confronted with: to either assimilate into the broader society or to embrace their Jewish identity more strongly.

The conversation between the author and her friend, Michael, takes place against the backdrop of rising antisemitism in Europe, with the recent attacks on Jewish individuals (particularly following the Gaza war) causing heightened concern. This antisemitism is often recast as ‘anti-Zionism,’ which nonetheless employs traditional stereotypes and conspiracy theories.

Data from a 2018 study by the EU's Fundamental Rights Agency reveals a disturbingly high prevalence of antisemitism in Europe — online (89%), in public spaces (73%), in media (71%), in political life (70%), and via instances of harassment (28%) and physical attacks (2%). More than one-third of European Jews had avoided Jewish events due to fear and concern about safety, and 38% had contemplated emigrating for the same reason. The study concluded that antisemitism in Europe “pervades everyday life” and is “so common that it becomes normalized.”

The text underscores the fear and mistrust European Jews have for their governments and society in general. The dramatic shift in public opinion towards Jews (now viewed with disdain) has especially targeted their support the State of Israel. Jewish observance in Europe is portrayed as an act of rebellion, because governments repeatedly attempt to restrict traditional Jewish practices (which obviously makes Jewish life increasingly challenging).

The author emphasises the broad spectrum of antisemitism perpetrators, which includes extremist Muslims (30%), from people on the Left (21%), and from those on the Right (13%). This multifaceted threat has led to an increasing number of European Jews leaving for Israel (as the only safe haven). The idea of carrying passports as a hedge against potential persecution is likened to the breaking of a glass during a wedding ceremony in remembrance of the Temple's destruction.

The author reflects on the historical context of Jewish persecution in Europe, noting the ongoing duality of antisemitism: the desire for Jews to assimilate and the resentment when they refuse to do so. Europe's potential future without a Jewish population is explored, and the author notes that Jews have often served as a convenient scapegoat for societal problems.

The author concludes by asserting that Europe's loss is forcing European Jews to choose between their birthplace and their Jewish identity, which may ultimately lead to Europe's own detriment. A sense of pity for Europe is expressed, as it grapples with its past and present mistreatment of its Jewish populations, while the Jews themselves (due to their resilience and survival mechanisms) will likely persevere.